Coming In From The Cold

26 New Zealand male survivors share their personal stories of sexual abuse

In a new publication that records the last 10 years in the development of Tautoko Tāne Aotearoa, you will read the stories of 26 Tautoko Tāne staff and clients who have generously shared their survivor experiences to raise awareness of the impacts of sexual violence and to support the important work of the only national network in New Zealand that is dedicated to enabling the wellbeing of male survivors.

Survivor Articles

Survivor support articles

Survivor Statistics

If you have been sexually abused as a child, you are not alone. Sexual abuse statistics are one way we can develop a picture of the extent of the problem of sexual abuse or sexual assault in our community. Stats can help us to better understand what groups of people are more likely to experience assault. Also where, when, potential…

Disclosure of Abuse

Deciding to disclose sexual abuse or sexual assault is a process that takes much time and consideration, particularly for a man. How disclosure of child sexual abuse or sexual assault occurs, and how it is responded to, can significantly influence a man’s future wellbeing. Talking about sexual abuse or sexual assault is no simple matter. Disclosure of childhood sexual abuse…

Childhood Sexual Abuse

Many men have had experiences of childhood sexual abuse in their lives. When we speak of childhood sexual abuse, we are generally referring to sexual abuse a man experienced when he was young — historical abuse. Sexual abuse includes any unwanted sexual contact from another person, especially from someone in authority. Often the abusers are older or stronger members of the…

Male Sexual Assault

I didn’t know what to do. I just felt numb. I couldn’t get my head around it and didn’t want to. I suppose on one level I knew I needed help but that didn’t make it any easier”. Sexual assault can happen to anyone. It happens when someone ignores the wishes of, or takes advantage of, another person. Nobody ever…

Sexual Assault and Arousal

Developing an erection or ejaculating during a sexually abusive experience can be one of the most confusing and distressing aspects of sexual abuse for men and boys. This page deals with the issue of male sexual assault and arousal. In it we will try to address some of the questions relating to physiological arousal and sexuality that men report struggling…

The Victim to Offender Cycle?

Do boys who have been sexually abused go on to commit sexual offences? In writing this page, we want to be clear up front that research evidence tells us that being sexually abused does not cause someone to sexually offend and that the majority of boys who are sexually abused do not go on to commit abuse. However, this question, whether or not boys who have been sexually…

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